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I recently came across a social media post by a groom caught in a dilemma between his new wife and his mother. He revealed a conflict between the two women, which was exacerbated when his mother chose to wear a black dress to their wedding, which greatly upset his wife. Tales of the challenging mother-in-law are common, often described as overbearing or manipulative.
However, a wedding should be a celebration of joy and excitement, albeit with some natural anxiety. For the groom’s mother, it’s a significant moment as she sees her son start a new life chapter. Adhering to these five etiquette tips can alleviate some of the wedding day tensions, always remembering that the day is about the couple.
- Communicate
Prior to the start of the wedding celebrations, it is vital to engage in a frank and candid discussion with both the bride and your son. Understanding their expectations, preferences, and envisioned roles is key. Extend your help and support and honor their choices. Communication is crucial. It will guarantee order and reduce any chance of misunderstandings.
- Respect the Bride’s Boundaries
No doubt you are excited for your son, but you should remember that the day will center around your son and his wife to be. It is best not to impose your own opinion unless asked. Preferences and decisions belong to the bride and groom to be. Honoring their boundaries and choices, even when they diverge from what you might expect, is important. Your responsibility is to encourage and provide support, rather than opting to impose or control the day’s events.
- Remain Elegant
Your attire should be chosen with careful consideration. It is best to discuss it with the mother of the bride to ensure that you are in sync with the wedding’s theme. With that in mind, seize the opportunity to remain stylish, and choose an outfit that not only comforts you but also makes you feel beautiful. What These Mothers Of The Groom Wore (fabulousafter40.com) What you do not want to do is wear a color that the bride disagrees with. Remember, it's her day.
- Respect Traditions
It is important to acquaint yourself with the cultural or religious practices that will be part of the ceremony. This also includes color worn. In the south it was considered taboo or frowned upon to wear black at a wedding (unless it was part of the bridal party’s attire, usually the groom and groomsman), even though in other parts of the country it was quite acceptable. Though we have moved away from much of it, it would be best to enquire, and engage with traditions respectfully.
- On the wedding day, amid the emotional whirlwind and bustling activities, make sure to relish the joy and enchantment of the day. Pause occasionally to reflect and take in the grandeur of the day. It is important to show courtesy to the bride’s family and guests, nurturing a sense of unity and goodwill. Warmly welcome guests, engage in courteous conversations, dance, laugh and show sincere interest in their comfort. Small acts of kindness and hospitality will leave a Timeless Impression.
In conclusion, navigating the etiquette of being the mother of the groom and embracing this journey with love, grace and support can help to create beautiful memories and strengthen family bonds. Remember, your presence and encouragement mean the world to your son and his future spouse.